You’ve spent some time thoughtfully evaluating past goals and your successes and challenges. Now, it’s time to tackle creating a new goal framework that will move you closer to achieving your goals.
This is the fun, hopeful part and you may be tempted to set the same goals again. You might tell yourself that this time you’ll really do it. Albert Einstein is loosely quoted as saying doing the same thing over and over while expecting different results is a sign of insanity.
You need a new plan of attack or expect to have the same results you did last year.
It can be helpful to build a framework and use it to guide you this year based on what you’ve learned about yourself during your evaluations. Knowing your personality and what you need to succeed is so important and should be carefully considered when setting new goals.
This post may contain affiliate links; you can find my disclosure policy here.
Do more of what worked.
If you’ve been following along, then you already have a list of challenges and activities that you enjoyed and worked well. Perhaps you achieved a lofty goal in the past.
This year, focus on what you enjoyed about these activities and try to create similar circumstances that will move you towards success.
For example, if you succeeded in cutting out debt or losing weight, why were you successful? Take the lessons learned with achieving those goals and use that knowledge to reach your new goals.
Do less of what you dreaded.
I know what you’re thinking, “I’m a mom, I always dread laundry, but I still have to do it.” That’s true, there will always be clothes to wash and dinners to make, but I think we might need to adjust our mindset.
Let’s look at it this way, dread what you need to do less.
What does that mean?
Reframing thoughts is a battle I always fight, but when I’m on my game, it shows. Instead of walking into the kitchen and being overcome with dread about all there is to clean up, I walk in and vow not to leave until it is clean. This has a snowball effect and my kitchen stays cleaner. The dread breeds procrastination, which begets more dread.
A vicious cycle, for sure.
So looks at the things you do, if you dread them and they aren’t necessary, stop. However, for the essential life tasks you dread, look for alternatives. Maybe someone else can take them over, or you need to work on your mindset towards them.
Do more of what created benefits.
When we look at our habits, we can see where some create benefits, and others aren’t that great for us. Identify which are beneficial and do those more often.
For me, going to the gym regularly helps tremendously with my mood and well-being, so this must be a priority.
As simple as it sounds, having an empty dishwasher in the morning makes my day so much better, so I need to make sure this happens.
Big or little, identify those things that create forward momentum in your day and do them regularly.
Do less of what drained time and money.
As moms, conserving time and money are two of our biggest goals, but we can easily fall into wasting both it we aren’t careful.
However, feeling drained of either can be very discouraging. So looks for ways to eliminate things that tax either area.
Having more time and money will help build the framework you need to achieve your goals. In the end, it all comes back to opportunity costs.
Time and money we spend on one activity are then unavailable to be used for something else, possibly something better. Everything is a trade-off, so think about that before making commitments.
Our framework is created by decisions.
I’ve long said that even not making a decision, is a decision. We have more control over our lives than we like to think.
Yes, some things might happen that we have no control over, but we do have control of our reaction to those things.
If you’ve set thoughtful, reasonable goals, they are achievable. The next step is to create a framework and environment to support you achieving those goals.
Follow this framework and move forward toward the goals you want to achieve.