How on earth could social media benefit an introvert? Arent’ they shy and reclusive?
I’m an introvert and a Myers-Briggs geek. As a child and young adult, I was always an INTJ, but being a homeschooling mother of six has changed me into an INTP, at least that’s what my 15-year-old psychology buff daughter and I think.
Although I am an introvert, I’m not anti-social and can make small talk when necessary. However, that isn’t what I prefer to do. I would rather talk about why people do the things they do than the color of someone’s lipstick.
My biggest problem is that it can take time for me to open up to people and actually become friends.
I like it that way.
Given all these things, you would think that I would be a total hater of social media, and at first, I was. But as a homeschooling mom, and one that spent a lot of time at home with young children, my opportunities to form friendships has been limited. Add to that our six moves in the first 14 years of our marriage, and it gets even harder.
Enter Social Media
Fortunately, over the past few years, I have embraced social media more and have stepped a little bit outside my lurker box. It’s hard because it goes against my private nature, but small steps over time have helped.
I give a lot of the credit to Julie Bogart and Periscope. I had been a Julie fan for years, and when she started using Periscope, it was wonderful. It came at a time when I needed it most, and I’m so grateful for the changes it prompted in my own life.
Creating Connection for Homeschool Moms
The first benefit of social media for me has been in creating a personal relationship with other homeschooling moms around the country. Now, attending the Bravewriter retreat last year helped because even though I didn’t talk to everyone, there is a connection and I can visualize them in their everyday life.
However, some of those connections have become very personal, and I consider them my friends. The friends I go to when the day just seems too long and hard. The friends that I excitedly tell about a new idea or a homeschooling success. The friends who will discuss with me why people do the things they do.
Supporting the Forming of Friendships
Another significant benefit I’ve noticed is that it helps me to form those connections quicker. As I meet moms in my local homeschooling community, whether at our co-op or other activities and follow them on social media, I get an understanding of who they are and what they’re about. What do they like? Do we have common friends? Do they like to travel? Do they like to stay home and read?
I”m sure some of you are thinking this sounds very odd right now, but as a person who needs to have some level of knowledge and connection with someone before I dive into a deep conversation, this all helps immensely.
Growing as a Person
ARe you now thinking I’ve gone off the deep end? Social Media as a tool for growth!
For me, yes.
It opens me up to different ideas and opinions. It shows me other ways to live and be happy. It encourages me to try things for myself that I otherwise would never attempt.
This blog, which I thought about having for years, was inspired by seeing and knowing other women who blog.
It also encourages me to have friendships and make acquaintances, which in turn helps me to be a better mom because I’m stepping out and doing what is sometimes uncomfortable.
Thank You, Social Media
Thank you for helping this introvert to join in more, to discuss more, and to listen more.
I don’t think it has this effect on everyone, too often people seem to hear less, participate in community less, and calmly discuss less. But it doesn’t have to be that way for you and me.
So, follow me on social media so we can get to know each other.
You may also like my post on being a lazy perfectionist.